#u ‘be the better person’ tools can eat my entire ass

forever sighing while my baby’s crying
“The sun rose sprinting towards someday, and I am only just now catching up. Sunday brought overripe peaches and virgin mimosas, and I fucked a stranger again. Somewhere there are a lot of fathers crying in cold churches— hung heads, tie nooses, and abuse is all too real. Somehow before dinner you’ll manage to fall in love with the dagger slyly placed beside the dessert plate, and it will cut you cherry red, tart so sweetly. Sometimes it hurts, and you like it. Sometimes it doesn’t hurt, and you go to sleep scared. Every time you bleed, and the blood keeps bleeding and the blood gets bloodier, and its pretty to look at. For a long time I thought there was something wrong until the wrong felt right, until the dark looked bright, so I turned the lights off and licked my fingers clean.”

1. the act or process of resolving or dissolving into parts or elements.
2. the resulting state.
3. the undoing or breaking of a bond, tie, union, partnership, etc.
4. the breaking up of an assembly or organisation; dismissal; dispersal.
5. Government: an order issued by the head of a state terminating a parliament and necessitating a new election.
Etymology: from Middle English dissolucioun < Latin dissolūtiōn-, stem of dissolūtiō, from dis-, a Latin prefix meaning “apart,” “asunder,” “away,” “utterly,” or having a privative, negative, or reversing force + solution, from Latin solūtus, “free, unfettered”, from solver, “to release”.
[Peter Gric - Dissolution of Ego]
“In the 1890s, when Freud was in the dawn of his career, he was struck by how many of his female patients were revealing childhood [sexual] victimization to him. Freud concluded that child sexual abuse was one of the major causes of emotional disturbances in adult women and wrote a brilliant and humane paper called “The Aetiology of Hysteria.” However, rather than receiving acclaim from his colleagues for his ground-breaking insights, Freud met with scorn. He was ridiculed for believing that men of excellent reputation (most of his patients came from upstanding homes) could be perpetrators of incest. Within a few years, Freud buckled under this heavy pressure and recanted his conclusions. In their place he proposed the “Oedipus complex,” which became the foundation of modern psychology… Freud used this construct to conclude that the episodes of abuse his clients had revealed to him had never taken place; they were simply fantasies of events the women had wished for… This construct started a hundred-year history in the mental health field of blaming victims for the abuse perpetrated on them and outright discrediting of women’s and children’s reports of mistreatment by men.”